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Be Aware of Defensive States – The Instant That Can Change Everything

In Love, Sex, and Relationships by Dr. Keith Witt

Our emotional, reactive, defensive selves are programmed into our brains to react to threat instantly. Our mature, conscious, socially intelligent selves are based in the prefrontal cortex behind our eyes, and it takes up to a second and a half for conscious attention to catch up to the rest of us in a critical situation. That second and a half is huge.
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The Danger of Sexual Addiction and What To Do If You're a Sex Addict

In General by Dr. Keith Witt

Patric Carnes is the father of the sex addiction and recovery movement. His book, Out of the Shadows shines a light on compulsive sexuality as a destructive force that can demolish individuals and devastate families. Modern American culture finally understands that compulsive sexual acting out exists and is a problem very much like alcoholism, drug addiction, and compulsive gambling—but not exactly.
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10 Statements Guaranteed to Drive Guys Crazy

In Love, Sex, and Relationships by Dr. Keith Witt

Happy couples are interested in having as few checks as possible on their partner’s “I’ve had it!” lists. They figure out how to compromise and help each other gradually shrink their lists and cut way down on annoying behaviors over time. If you ask them how their marriage is doing, they’ll give you a variation of what I think is the ideal answer: “We’re not perfect, but we love each other and we’re both working at getting better at loving each other.”