The Gift of Shame: Why We Need Shame and How To Use it To Love and Grow (Paperback)
by: Keith Witt Ph.D. (Author)
Shame is nature’s gift to help us learn, grow, love, and parent. Read this book and change your experience of shame forever. Dr. Witt offers us new perspectives and transformative practices in accessible and enjoyable fashion.
Dr. Witt’s offering, The Gift of Shame, is an artful and liberating look at this much maligned emotion. By the end I was completely convinced that we need shame in order to love and thrive.
I highly recommend this book. B.J. Lyman, Ph.D. Author of Prenatal and Birth Memories: Working with Your Earliest Experiences to Help Your Life Today, Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Health, and Program Chair, Santa Barbara Graduate Institute
More About The Gift of Shame
Shame is a social emotion shared by all mammals. It shows up in toddlers around a year old as a necessary component of socialization and then continues to be elaborated as a intrapersonal and interpersonal motivating force. Since human capacity for symbolic communication only came fully on line around two hundred thousand years ago, biological evolution has left us ill prepared to deal with the combination of the overwhelming internal experiences of shame intertwined with the turbo-charged Ferarri of human consciousness. Unlike animals we can feel shame emotions from feelings, thoughts, or behaviors that we have experienced, or imagined, in the past, present, and future. Social evolution has created dominator hierarchies that use shame to repress individuals and stunt growth, but also transcendent practices that incorporate shame into enhanced health, love, and broadening spirituality. Modern research and clinical practice have demonstrated numerous approaches that can harness shame as a positive force.
The Gift of Shame explores the nature, necessity, history, and potential of shame through the development of one couple, John and Teresa, and their families from earliest experiences to eventual mastery of shame as a tool of personal and relational transcendence. Along the way we look at sexual shame, cultural shame, shame and laughter, the necessity of shame in parenting, and shame as spiritual guide. Read this book and change your experience of shame forever.
- Paperback: 212 pages
- Publisher: iUniverse, Inc. (June 7, 2007)
- Language: English
About the Author
Keith Witt has been a therapist and teacher for over thirty years. He and his wife Becky have two grown children and live and work in the house in the Santa Barbara foothills where they raised their family. Witt is also a martial artist, surfer, tap dancer, and rock musician. (More About Keith Witt)