[VIDEO] Psychotherapy as a Martial Art
Blending the principles of martial arts with the practice of psychotherapy was central in my early development as a clinician, and I still find the material invaluable in my healing work.
Parents In Psychotherapy – Therapist In The Wild [VIDEO]
This week the Therapist in the Wild opines on how parents get a bad rap in therapy, and how it’s best to just talk to your shrink until you have compassionate understanding for all the sacrifices and efforts your parents made to make you great.
Nice Guys Finish First – Therapist In The Wild [VIDEO]
This week the Therapist in the Wild debunks the “Nice guys finish last” myth. Actually, nice guys finish first and Dr. Keith Witt will tell you why!
Dialed-In Marriage – Therapist In The Wild [VIDEO]
More priceless advice from Dr. Keith Witt, the Therapist in the Wild. Too many marriages are clueless too much of the time, and that means that many of us can love WAY better. Find out how you can have a Dialed-In Marriage instead.
Regrets – Therapist In The Wild [VIDEO]
This week the Therapist in the Wild takes us on a trip to your deathbed and what regrets you might be able to avoid – starting today!
The Myth of Unconditional Love – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
This week the Therapist in the Wild reveals some basic truths about unconditional love–a misunderstood concept that has been the basis of a lot of confusion in the last fifty years.
STFU Parenting Edition – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
Anybody who’s a parent will tell you about times that talking to their kid was like talking to a wall. In situations like these, the Therapist in the Wild has some priceless advice: Shut the F#@K Up!
Ruff and Tumble Play – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
We are a child centric culture with lots of respect for children, and that’s a good thing! One parenting skill that can get lost is rough and tumble play with kids. Kids that have rough and tumble play with parents–wrestling and roughhousing–do much better if their parents manage it so no one gets hurt and everyone has fun.
Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Stupidity – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
This week the Therapist in the Wild opines on emotional stupidity and emotional intelligence–two states we each inhabit every day.
Secret Knowledge for Great Parenting – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
This week the Therapist in the Wild shares a surprising fact about being a good parent — start with having a great relationship with your spouse!
The Question of Love – The Conscious Change Agent Web Show [VIDEO]
Keith Witt on The Conscious Change Agent Web Show, with Jack Butler. In this video take on the question of Love. What is Love? How can we LOVE BETTER?
Do NOT argue with Fundamentalists – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
Today the Therapist in the Wild is here to talk about why you should not bother arguing with rigid-minded people.
There is no reason to have a discussion with people who refuse to see a point of view outside their own.
Three Types of Employees – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
Due to popular demand and the continued interest in the 2 Rules for Bosses video, this week on Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith discusses the workplace and the three types of employees found in every work environment.
You are the Hero in your Epic Journey – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
When you were conceived a universe came into being. At the center of that universe was a hero and that’s you. You were called into life with the care of your mother, and as you grew, life’s journeys transformed you, over and over again.
STFU Self-loathing Edition – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
We all learn shame as toddlers responding to the disapprovals that parents regularly are compelled to try to control us with–the average 10 to 17 month old hears the word “no” once every eight waking minutes. Since kids learn to parent themselves from the ways they are parented, as we grow to be able to observe ourselves doing better or worse, we can disapprove of “worse” enough to feel guilt, remorse, or shame. Unfortunately, some of us can periodically dis ourselves so profoundly we become lost in self-loathing.
You Are A Super Hero – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
What myths and archetypes are currently guiding YOUR life? Yes, everybody moves according to archetypes and myths. We all do this.
Checking in with Your Partner: Happy or Unhappy – Therapist in the Wild [Video]
There are unhappy “checking-in” couples as well, though, and while the words and mechanisms are similar, the energy is very, very different.
Borderline Personality Disorder – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
Borderline Personality Disorder is the great unseen epidemic that causes a great deal of strife for people and their relationship to spouses, family, friends, and in the workplace. Watch the video to find out more.
Healthy Narcissism vs Unhealthy Narcissism – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
This week’s Therapist in the Wild and blog deal with narcissism–a big topic that we’re all familiar with to some extent. By many measures, pathological narcissism–feeling special and entitled while diminishing and objectifying others–is on the rise in America. I suspect this trend will swing towards more caring in the near future, but maybe I’m just being an optimistic guy.
Healthy Flirting and the art of the Enjoyable Attraction – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
Dr. Keith Witt is here to talk about flirting and enjoyable attractions. We’re all sexual beings. Everyone of us. We have sexuality oozing out of our pores. That’s just who we are. Now we can either hide it and try to repress it, or we can channel it in a healthy way, enjoy it, and even celebrate it.
Sex with Hookers: Nope! – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
Dr. Keith Witt wants you to know that it’s a bad idea to have sex with hookers. That’s right. There are lots of reasons for this, and they may not be what you’re expecting. Watch the video to find out why.
Just Say No to Drugs – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Witt weighs in on how to reduce harm from drugs for real. “Just say no!” popularized by Nancy Reagan in the 80’s, has been about as successful as the War on Drugs–in other words, a miserable failure.
Handling Bullies – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
The key to defusing a situation where you are being bullied is to meet it with assertive energy. That doesn’t mean bullying back. It means that you stand your ground and set a boundary, making it clear that you won’t tolerate being treated like that.
The Importance of Eye Contact – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Witt speaks to us about the power of eye contact. Eyes are the window to the soul and are incredible conveyors of emotion.
Handling Telemarketers – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Witt approaches the dreaded subject of telemarketers. Most people can relate to a time when a telemarketer called and all you wanted to do was yell and scream. There’s never an optimal time for these kinds of calls, but when it happens, it always feels like the worst time possible.
Long Distance Relationships – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt talks about the disadvantages of long distance relationships. If you live 45 minutes away from your lover, you qualify.
Regular Good Sex – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt explains that if you’re not having regular sex in your relationship you’re likely to have problems. Relationships need an expanding sense of romance and eroticism and that requires effort. Don’t put this one at the bottom of your list, regular good sex is as important for relationships as vitamins are for a healthy body.
10 Seconds – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt explains that we’re all sensitive. When it’s broken down and the machismo is put in its place, humans are exposed to be highly sensitive creatures. Dr. Witt helps us understand how our sensitivity also affects our relationships and that 10 seconds is all it takes to damage them. Watch the video for the full scoop!
Parenting a Teenager – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt continues his series on parenting. After offering some wonderful advice to those parenting young children in the episode “Parenting a Four Year Old” Dr. Witt handles a subject that is arguably more difficult than parenting a four year old, parenting angsty teenagers.
Speed Development – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt reviews what it means to develop as a man. From birth till death, Dr. Witt packs more into 4:20 minutes than you thought possible. Did we mention it’s fast?
2 Rules for Bosses – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt gives us the “2 Rules for Bosses.” Dr. Witt examines two vital principles for how a boss should interact with employees. As a boss you have to treat your employees with kindness, compassion, and professionally. Watch the video for the two rules, you’ll be glad you did.
STFU The Political Edition – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt examines another great opportunity for “Shutting The Fuck Up.” Dr. Witt reminds us that unexamined ideologies can quickly become idiotic and really suck the life out of a gathering of people. The next time you feel compelled to bestow your political ideologies on others, ask yourself, “Should I be shutting the fuck up?”
Handling a Depressed Partner – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
Depression is hard, it affects everyone around the sufferer. Watch this video for priceless advice on how to help a partner or spouse get through their depression.
When to Shut the Fuck Up – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
Dr. Keith Witt provides another priceless piece of relationship advice, namely a skill that many of us have not yet learned to develop. That skill, is knowing when, in relationship, to simply shut the fuck up!
Tone is Everything – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
Are you able to recognize your tone when talking to people? Is your tone the sort that soothes relationships or the sort that starts wars?
Late Night Relating – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt offers his priceless advice to a young couple who’ve lost their connection. Truth be told, getting back into the swing of relating to one another does require work, but it’s not hard work, once you’ve gotten the hang of it, and the results are well worth it.
Who’s Driving the Bus? – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt points out that we are all many people throughout the course of our lives. Sometimes, we’re happy, sometimes we’re sad, angry. Sometimes, we’re compassionate, sometimes we’re selfish, and so on.
2 Rules for Women – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt follows up on his priceless “2 Rules for Men” session with the long-sought after “2 Rules for Women.” These are important rules to live by, but you’ll have to watch the video to find out what those two rules are!
Two rules for guys: Dr. Keith Witt at TEDxAmericanRiviera 2012
Sometimes we can uplevel our lives with simple principles that apply to most situations. Two rules for guys offers men priceless guidance to happy living and improved relationships.
Fuck Me and Fix Things – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt talks about the true story of a beautiful woman who was sick of all the bad guys in her life. She eventually found what she was looking for in a man, one who would “F#@k her and Fix Things.”
Conversation vs. Argument – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt talks about the differences in how we communicate our feelings. There are many types of talking and some of these are more fun than others, that’s why sometimes it’s best to listen to the music behind communication, this helps us to spot the difference between conversation and argument.
American Lifestyle – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt talks about the American Lifestyle and how out of touch it is with the body. Listen to your body and you’ll find that you need more sleep, a better diet, and regular exercise.
How to Drink – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt talks to us about how to drink safely and maturely. By delving into this explosive issue Dr. Witt reminds us that if you’re not teaching good drinking habits, you’ll find that teenagers teaching other teenagers to drink can sometimes lead to binge drinking, drunk driving, false knowledge, stupid behavior, unsafe sex, and general shenanigans.
What the Bleep? – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt, walks us through a parallel “bleep” universe where we are forced to respond to situations not out of anger, but with a calm, reasoned approach.
Unresolved Guys – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt explains how unresolved men are not living up to their full potential. Not to mention it’s a huge turnoff to the ladies. Resolve yourself men!
Premature Ejaculation – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt guides a young couple through the problem of premature ejaculation. Dr. Keith Witt reminds us of a certain technique, known as the stop start, that will improve your love life dramatically.
Handling a Dick Boss – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
In this episode of Therapist in the Wild, Dr. Keith Witt takes a fan submitted question: “How to handle a dick boss?” Dr. Witt teaches us to either relate or to handle them with compassion.
Parenting a Four Year Old – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
This is for all the parents out there with small children. When parenting a four year old you have to remember that they’re driven by emotion and it’s imperative that you never raise your intensity level to match theirs. That’s a bad idea that will get you nowhere.
Cheating and Lying – Therapist in the Wild [VIDEO]
This is Dr. Keith Witt, The Therapist in the Wild, here to talk to you about lying and cheating and cheating and lying. The breakdown of most marriages usually stems from one or both of these places. Here’s some priceless advice from Dr. Keith Witt.
TEDxAmericanRiviera – Dr. Keith Witt – A Five Star Practice for Creating Beautiful Relationships
Dr. Keith Witt is a psychotherapist, teacher, and author who has lived and worked in Santa Barbara, CA. for over thirty-eight years. He received his BA in Psychology and MA in Counseling Psychology from UCSB, and his PH.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Fielding Institute. He was licensed as an MFT in 1975 and as Clinical Psychologist in 1988.
100 reasons not to have the secret affair: Keith Witt at TEDxAmericanRiviera
Dr. Keith Witt He has conducted over fifty thousand therapy sessions in Santa Barbara with individuals, couples, and families from all walks of life including the film and music industries, corporate management, information technologies, engineering, academia, the law, and a full spectrum of other cultures. He has also led hundreds of groups, and taught numerous classes and workshops.